The following is the 2nd part of an article that offers a description of the kind of information available through SecretDivorce.com.  It has proven to be somewhat challenging to describe the type of divorce advice that this site offers without revealing any of their “trademarked secrets”… After all, the creators and owners of Secret Divorce our practicing attorneys and the last thing I need to be concerned about is another day in court!

I eventually made the decision to develop a list of topics covered in their membership area and if any of them are important to you, then it would be in your favor to check out their site in more detail.  This is really the best way that I know on how to cover the many tricks that Secret Divorce can teach you.  The creators of the site have given a lot of attention to making it known that each and every topic they cover is copyrighted material.  They are also very much aware that the information they are offering could result in lost revenue for themselves and other attorneys throughout the country.  If you were to consider that Secret Divorce is the equivalent to having an entire day with the best divorce attorney in you area, and at a very minimum of $200/hour, then it would be easier to understand how a site like Secret Divorce can results in significant savings for its members.

Pay very close attention to the following list, and determine for yourself if these topics offered by SecretDivorce.com are important to you…

• When to really start planning a divorce and the exact time a specific action should be taken
• How to ensure that the wife will not become suspicious and rush to the aid of an attorney
• How something as simple as a excellent timing and a little patience is able to ensure a “successful” divorce
• When and where to spend money so that it will actually help your divorce case
• Step-by-step instructions on how someone can reduce or even eliminate the chance of having to pay alimony… (This information is priceless!)
• Ways to all but guarantee that you can have top choice of Divorce/Family Law attorneys
• The actual circumstances that could cause an attorney to have to actually “resign” from your divorce case
• Exact records a father should keep in order to “document” how important he is to his kids
• What details a Father should know “by heart” about his kids in order to impress the judge/mediator
• The fool-proof way to make certain that one will have to pay less in child support (WITHOUT affecting his kids)
• What impact a divorce will have on the husband’s taxes this year and many, many years to come
• Not only finding the best attorney but making sure he/she gives 110% to their client
• What to do with and for the children that will not only tighten the Father-child relationship, but will demonstrate to everyone involved that your child(ren) DO NEED YOU!!

This barely scratches the surface on everything that you could learn, but it was definitely some of the key topics that stood out to me.  As it turns out, these “secret” tips are only part of the learning process, as SecretDivorce.com offers other resources throughout their membership area.  The following is only the short-list of resources offered…

• Countless real life examples that are used to further explain each topic
• Quizzes that help you to remember the most important tips
• An interactive worksheet where a big part of the prep work is already finished for you (They tell you exactly when to use it)
• A forum covering what others have done in your situation & a way you can ask questions that are specific to your case

I know that there is plenty that I have left out, but honestly, if your are still not interested in Secret Divorce, then it is probably not for you.  After going over this time and again, I have realized what this website is really all about… It is a complete course on planning and executing the “perfect divorce”.

It’s not typical that we come across something that deserves a full post on our site, and this is likely the only time you will ever see a 2-part review.  But SecretDivorce.com is really that important, especially to those guys who know their divorce could turn into a full-blown war!  At the moment, there is no other site on the internet that I can compare it to.  It is more comparable to having a relative/best friend who happens to be an experienced family law attorney and has enough free time to take you by the hand and show you the exact steps to take in your divorce and when to take them.  But even then, they have to be willing to only charge a couple bucks an hour.  If you happen to be part of the 99.9% of us who are not this fortunate, then you owe it to yourself to take the time and visit SecretDivorce.com.  There really much to lose here, if anything doesn’t live up to your expectations, then you simply cash in on their money-back guarantee and request a refund.

One last note… I strongly encourage anyone who has had experience with Secret Divorce to leave some comments below.  I know the importance of all the topics they cover, but as my divorce was several years ago, I wasn’t able to use any of the “tips” that they reveal.  If you have, leave a comment and let us all know how it turned out… Good or Bad!

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(NOTE: This was supposed to be one article about what Secret Divorce was all about, but once I started writing, I soon realized that there is no way that it would fit.  So for your convenience and my sanity, I have decided to split it up into 2 parts.  But please do not forget, to read through part 2; otherwise, you will be missing out on some really good information! So, with that out of the way, I will begin…

We have all been online for a while now, and our website about men’s divorce has been going strong for well over 3 years.  During this time, we have been well aware of a website simply known as SecretDivorce.com, but at the same time, we knew very little about it.  And yet it remained there in its own little corner of the web year after year, filling up with updates and testimonials.

Eventually I grew curious enough to contact someone at the website to find out what it was all about.  After all, it is another site dedicated to helping men make it through their divorce, and could actually be of some help to our visitors.  I was quite surprised to find a reply, sitting there in my inbox, less than 15 minutes from when I sent that first e-mail.  An even bigger surprise was the enthusiastic tone of the email and the praise that they had for our little website.  We exchanged emails, as the gentleman on the other end was more than willing to answer any and all questions that I had.  It was near the end of the conversation when I received the offer that I had been waiting for… “Would you like exclusive access to the membership area of SecretDivorce.com?”.  I think anyone could guess my answer to this one, and within 10 minutes I had a 3-day pass to finally see what this Secret Divorce site was all about.

Had I not been impressed about what I learned during these 3 days, I can promise you that I would not be taking up my time and yours with this article.  At the risk of sounding like some spokesman for their site, had we previously known the type on information in their membership area, MensDivorceHQ.com would finally be the complete  package when it comes to divorce advice for men.  However, being that none of us are divorce attorneys with years of case experience, it’s fairly simple to explain the difference between our site and theirs.

I will end the first part of this article by stating the obvious, and getting some of the formalities out of the way before I start into some of the details of why SecretDivorce.com could have all the answers that many of you are looking for…

1. It offers Real Legal Advice from Real Attorneys! How often have you visited a website (ours included) that has the disclaimer that the creators of the site are not attorneys and have no legal experience at all?  Worst yet, have you ever PAID for something to find that same exact disclaimer?  Sure, they all have their value, but nothing can serve as a substitute for genuine legal experience.
2. It can literally save you thousands of dollars! For the time that it would take to gather up this kind of information, you would be out a lot of time and money.  Not to mention the fact that only a lawyer has the know-how to give instructions like these.  At the going rate 0f $200-300 /hour, you would already be facing a huge legal bill.  If that was not enough, SecretDivorce.com devotes a lot of time showing you how to considerably reduce any support that your wife would be after.  They even show you how to get your wife to unknowingly help out your cause!
3. Nothing gets shipped and there is absolutely nothing to download! Sound like a rip-off? Not really if you think about it.  You can’t be discovered using a site like SecretDivorce.com, if there is nothing to carry around or save to your computer.  But yet it can be used anywhere that you have internet access, and can be used on anything from desktop computers, notebooks, and net-books to smartphones, iPhones, Android phones, and even the new iPads.  And in case your worried about what could show up on a billing statement… It will simply refer to “Clickbank”, which is a company that handles the payment processing for thousands of different internet products on every subject that you could think of (i.e. how to have a happy marriage).
4. The No-Questions-Asked 100% Money Back Guarantee! Any time you purchase something over the internet this should be a given, especially when you can’t see it there on the shelf and you can’t look through it.  But SecretDivorce.com doesn’t hide their guarantee somewhere at the bottom of the page.  In fact, it’s one of the first things you see when visiting their website, and it is posted everywhere!

This may not be news to you, and you might not find it very impressive, but I would only hope that you do not dismiss anything until you read the 2nd part of this article.  That is when I will get into the specifics on SecretDivorce.com, and why it could be the best investment you could make right now!

Take some time to look over the site and read through all the testimonials left by past customers… SecretDivorce.com

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As you will soon see, Item #3 of the divorce checklist is where the real action begins.  The time has come to stop questioning yourself.  The time to be depressed about the end of you marriage is over, and you need to get excited at the chance that you will soon be a “free man” again.  You have spent a lot of your energy wondering where everything went wrong, and whether or not your marriage was worth saving.  Some of you tried to no avail, others knew that there was no point in saving something that turned out to be so miserable.  It is extremely difficult to fight love, and if that love is strong enough it makes us do stupid things, like get married to a person who has only showed one side to us.  And it’s sad to think that it is a common thought among women..”I am married now, I don’t have to try so hard anymore”.  Ironically, it is often a thought like this that leads to them being divorced.

Hopefully, you have done your homework up until now.  You have created a private side to you that will help launch you back into the world once the divorce is over.  You contained all your finances, and prevented yourself from falling deeper in the hole.  You have taken the time to research the better known divorce attorneys in your area, and have possibly talked to one or two of them.  You should have an idea by now about what your divorce has in store for you.  Are you in for an all-out court battle, or you going to be able agree, sign some forms, shake hands, and part ways?  In reality, 90% of all divorces are somewhere in between, but the closer you come to achieving the latter, the better of both of you will be at the end of the day.

There are a number of questions that you need answers for and some action you need to take before you can move on from this stage.  Does your state require you to be separated for a certain period of time before you can file for a divorce?  Have you officially separated from your wife, and if you are still staying in the same home, do you have proper documentation of when the marriage separation began?  Have you spoken to her about how you are going to split up the debts and assets?  In most states, it is a 50/50 split, but you need to know the actual details of that split.

And what about a divorce attorney?  Are you and your wife going to be one of the lucky ones who can start and finish your divorce with total agreement and  thus have no need for a divorce attorney.  If not then you should be very close to hiring an attorney by this point in your divorce.  And if you haven’t gone so far as to find some good attorneys and/or haven’t consulted with any of them, then you need to get the ball rolling on this immediately.  I would be shocked to find that your wife hasn’t at least talked to one attorney by this point.  She will likely be the one to actually file the divorce, but you need to be ready for it.

How about the emotional roller coaster you are about to get on?  Up to this point, you have been probably feeling a lot of resentment and/or depression.  But now that the ball is going to start rolling a lot faster and your emotions are going to do the same.  Some days you will feel fine, others will be filled with anger.  The stress will pile up and you will have problems sleeping, even if you have never had this issue before.  But it is not all bad, some days you will actually find happiness and/or excitement because something has really gone your way.  The emotions that YOU will actually go through will be tough to predict, but it is crucial that you don’t let them steer your decision making.  Use your brains, not your emotions, to make the decisions from here on out.  If, for instance, you let anger rule your decision making, then there will be a very bumpy road ahead of you.

We will go over all these issues and more.  There will be tips that help with you make educated decisions, and other information on how to get through this step with as little stress as possible, and your finances intact.

Quick Review of Item #3 of the Divorce Checklist

• If you haven’t completed some of the goals of the previous section, it’s time to make some progress.
• This step will require some of the biggest decisions yet, with the exception of the deciding to get a divorce.
• The marriage separation becomes a part of the divorce process now, not just a way to get away from your wife for a while.
• Each state has different rules/requirements for the marriage separation and you need to know what your state has to say about it.
• If you determine that a divorce attorney will be required, you need to be moving rather quickly on this.
• The divorce attorney will make sure that everything that is done from here on out will be accepted into your divorce case.
• Be ready for the emotions to start spinning.  There will be such a change from day to day, you will likely start to feel a lot of stress, anger, pressure, and even embarrassment.  It’s normal, but DO NOT let it cloud your judgment.
• As always send us an e-mail, if there are specific questions that you cannot find an answer to.