Hopefully, you have done your homework up until now.  You have created a private side to you that will help launch you back into the world once the divorce is over.  You contained all your finances, and prevented yourself from falling deeper in the hole.  You have taken the time to research the better known divorce attorneys in your area, and have possibly talked to one or two of them.  You should have an idea by now about what your divorce has in store for you.  Are you in for an all-out court battle, or you going to be able agree, sign some forms, shake hands, and part ways?  In reality, 90% of all divorces are somewhere in between, but the closer you come to achieving the latter, the better of both of you will be at the end of the day.

There are a number of questions that you need answers for and some action you need to take before you can move on from this stage.  Does your state require you to be separated for a certain period of time before you can file for a divorce?  Have you officially separated from your wife, and if you are still staying in the same home, do you have proper documentation of when the marriage separation began?  Have you spoken to her about how you are going to split up the debts and assets?  In most states, it is a 50/50 split, but you need to know the actual details of that split.

And what about a divorce attorney?  Are you and your wife going to be one of the lucky ones who can start and finish your divorce with total agreement and  thus have no need for a divorce attorney.  If not then you should be very close to hiring an attorney by this point in your divorce.  And if you haven’t gone so far as to find some good attorneys and/or haven’t consulted with any of them, then you need to get the ball rolling on this immediately.  I would be shocked to find that your wife hasn’t at least talked to one attorney by this point.  She will likely be the one to actually file the divorce, but you need to be ready for it.

How about the emotional roller coaster you are about to get on?  Up to this point, you have been probably feeling a lot of resentment and/or depression.  But now that the ball is going to start rolling a lot faster and your emotions are going to do the same.  Some days you will feel fine, others will be filled with anger.  The stress will pile up and you will have problems sleeping, even if you have never had this issue before.  But it is not all bad, some days you will actually find happiness and/or excitement because something has really gone your way.  The emotions that YOU will actually go through will be tough to predict, but it is crucial that you don’t let them steer your decision making.  Use your brains, not your emotions, to make the decisions from here on out.  If, for instance, you let anger rule your decision making, then there will be a very bumpy road ahead of you.

We will go over all these issues and more.  There will be tips that help with you make educated decisions, and other information on how to get through this step with as little stress as possible, and your finances intact.

Quick Review of Item #3 of the Divorce Checklist

• If you haven’t completed some of the goals of the previous section, it’s time to make some progress.
• This step will require some of the biggest decisions yet, with the exception of the deciding to get a divorce.
• The marriage separation becomes a part of the divorce process now, not just a way to get away from your wife for a while.
• Each state has different rules/requirements for the marriage separation and you need to know what your state has to say about it.
• If you determine that a divorce attorney will be required, you need to be moving rather quickly on this.
• The divorce attorney will make sure that everything that is done from here on out will be accepted into your divorce case.
• Be ready for the emotions to start spinning.  There will be such a change from day to day, you will likely start to feel a lot of stress, anger, pressure, and even embarrassment.  It’s normal, but DO NOT let it cloud your judgment.
• As always send us an e-mail, if there are specific questions that you cannot find an answer to.

The concept would be to set up and attend meetings or consultations with 4 to 8 of the most notable divorce attorneys from around your county.  A lot of these attorneys offer intial consultations at no charge in an attempt to convince you that they are the ideal person to work for you as part of your divorce proceedings.  You may find that some will tack on a small  fee (ie $75), but they will likely get into more information about your divorce.  A small group of the veteran attorneys might actually ask for payment that will amount to their actual hourly rate ($150 – $300).  Many of these services may result in some type of action occuring by the time your consultation is over, which is exactly what happened to me.  Regardless of what takes place during your meeting with the attorney, as long as you spend a decent amount of time going over the specifics of you divorce, it will create a professional relationship.  This results in a conflict of interest if any of these divorce attorneys were to even spend time talking to your soon-to-be ex, and it gets even worse if they were to actually represent her in your divorce.

And so essentially, it really is your choice concerning how much effort and money that you want to put into this.  If you live in a small city, this can be quite a potent divorce strategy, but if you reside in a larger metropolitan area it’s less likely that you could take the time or spend the amount of money it would take to essentially “lock in” every good divorce attorney in your area.  But on the other hand, you might get to feel the aggravation yourself when you find that several divorce attorneys that you try to contact can’t even give you the time of day because your wife has gotten to them first.  But it does go to show you that there is still some benefit to not hiring the first attorney that you talk to.

For these guys, we have developed our own set of divorce quick tips.  These will be very short posts that contain only the most pertinent  information, wrapped up in no more than 2 paragraphs so that it can be skimmed over in a matter of seconds.

These divorce tips may consist of  shortened versions of our main posts about men’s divorce strategies, or it could be a brand new tip or tactic that does not require anymore than 2 paragraphs to explain what it is and how it may impact your divorce.   So in that matter, these divorce tips will actually benefit anyone who happens to stop by our site, because it will work well as a summary to help those remember the important points of our featured posts, or it may introduce brand new information.  Regardless, these quick divorce tips will be no less important that any of our other posts.

The divorce tips will not have any numbers, or specific order to them, but they will still be easily recognized.  First, every one of these tips that we post can be brought up by clicking on a special category named “Divorce Quick Tips”. Also, there will be a unique picture associated will all our quick tips and will not be used for any other divorce post.   As you will see, this photo stands out and will be noticed immediately just by scanning over our front page…

This is just another way for us to get as much advice out there to any man who is going through a divorce.  Honestly, we don’t care if you spend hours going through all the divorce strategies that will eventually fill this site, or if you have only 30 seconds or so before your brain tells you to move on.  The biggest concern that we have is for those who don’t realize how much they can learn (and prepare) from the all the information that is available on the internet.

As always, if you have any suggestions on how we can make this website, Do Not Hesitate to comment on any of our posts or send us an e-mail via the contact page.  As far as we or concern no suggestion is too trivial or pointless.

The following are a few easy steps that you can do get things started.  Just know that this officially marks the time where you are on your way to living your own private life again.  It may make you a little nervous at first, but after a little while the nervousness may change into a sense of liberation, which should be a good feeling…

• Find yourself a place that you can use as a address that your wife does not have access to.  This will be used for all future legal and financial matters that she has no business knowing about.  You could simply change your mailing address to a family member’s or friend’s house, but the best option is to go ahead an get a P.O. box.  It is much more secure and you won’t have to go into any explanations as to why your mailing address is different, even though you claim to be living in the same home.

Note: If you do decide to use someone else’s house as a new mailing address, then make sure that you trust this person 100%, even if someone offers them a little money to disclose sensitive information about you.  Also, only change the mailing addresses of important stuff, like bank accounts and credit cards, and let the utility bills and junk mail continue to come to the house.

• In this age of technology, it is also important to have an e-mail address that only you have access to.  There is just as much correspondence coming in via email as there is through regular mail these days.  Many attorneys and their paralegals use e-mail to discuss issues in your case and send you papers to be signed.  You definitely don’t want you wife poking into this kind information.  Also, if you get any important information (ie. financial statements, divorce attorney correspondence, etc) sent to you through your e-mail address, then make sure you print out a hard copy to store with your other important files.

Another Note: Google’s email service, gMail, works just fine for something like this.  It’s secure, free to use, and can be accessed anywhere you have internet.  Just make sure that you use a password that your wife will not be able to guess, and that your computer will not accidentally store the password so that she can log in to your account the second you turn your back.

• I have already talked about having hard copies of everything, but want to re-iterate it one more time.  Save all statements, bills, correspondence, and anything that even looks like it could be important.  Find a place to store these files so that you wife cannot get a hold of it.  I found a place at work amid all my other work folders.  So even if she went to the trouble of sneaking into my office, she would have one hell of a time trying to find anything that was actually important.

Final Note: We will talk about this more in a later post, but this is a good time to mention it.  Let your boss and your co-workers know that you are in the process in going through a divorce.  Not only do they make good support (they are always good for a confidence boost), but they will know that if your wife or some other strange person comes snooping around to tell them to get lost.  And they are always good to let you know if she came around or if they saw here out and about town.  They tend to make for some good (& free) private investigators by just keeping there eyes open.

If you complete these steps and make a good effort to make sure she doesn’t find out about the specifics, then you are well on your way to being properly prepared for your divorce.  Immediately following this post, we will talk about the first couple of things that you can do to protect your finances.  This financial advice will be the first to make good use of the work that we hope you accomplished from the information here.

What I am referring to is when your wife, or a vengeful soon to be ex wife, finds a way to take out a credit card solely in your name.  It may be more difficult to do now because of the all the issues that credit card companies have gone through recently, but I am sure that it is still happening.  All it requires is some lack of respect by your significant other and some personal information that she can easily get a hold of (really, how hard would it be to for her to get a hold of your social security number,birthday, etc.)

This is how it works and why it can come back to bite YOU in the ass…

Your wife fills out some credit card application online (or one of those they send to you in the mail), and has the information sent to a different location (ie. her work, a friends house, etc).  She is issued the credit card and has some male friend, who is probably jealous of you and has a crush on your wife, activate it for her over the phone.  Now she has a working credit card with your name all over it, and an expendable income.  The kicker is that during the spending spree she pays the minimum payments each month to keep it under wraps for a while longer.  Think about it… How much would it suck if she used that same credit card to hire the most expensive divorce lawyer in town.

My question to you… When was the last time that you saw your credit report?  When you got it was she involved in any way?  Are you 100% sure that there were no missing pages?  There is a specific reason that I ask you this…

Let’s say that she pulled this off early in the marriage and has built up one hell of a debt and making only minimal payments.  You happen to find out at some point, but you are still responsible for 50% of it… Why, you ask?  Because it will be very hard to prove to the judge that you were completely oblivious to it.  After all, it is your credit and you are a responsible adult who always knows what’s on it.  At this point, its your word against you wife’s that you didn’t know about it, and the judge will still order to divide that debt 99% of the time.  You can pursue a different route, like trying to get her on identity theft, but that is a completely different legal issue and the judge in your divorce case won’t even consider that without a charge and/or conviction.  This is exactly what happened to me… Yes, I wasn’t keeping track of my credit report for a long time and it cost me in the end.  Trust me I won’t make that mistake again!

Scenario #2… You are actually being proactive and got a copy of your credit report in the last month or so.  However; your wife could have just as easily opened up a credit card account after you obtained your report and is now able to use it just as freely because you are too confident about knowing all the information that is on your credit report.  You check your report 6 months down the road and found out then, what she did, but now the divorce is final.  It’s too late to even make her responsible for 50% of the debt.  Meanwhile the credit card company is calling you to get payment 3 or 4 times a day, because she stopped paying anything on it.  You explain the situation, but again without a charge and/or conviction of identity theft, they could care less.  Your name is on the account and you are legally still responsible.  The end result: Suck it up or go through another lengthy legal battle.  Meanwhile, your credit rating falls through the floor.

With my ordeal, I have found the easiest way to have prevented the problem is to report the issue as soon as it happened.  But of course it was too late for me and rather than spend even more time in court, I reluctantly agreed to pay on the $7000 credit card account.  I am still trying to repair my credit from this more than a year later!

So what is the moral of this story… Always know what is going on inside your credit report! At least until this divorce issue is over and you feel “confident” that you are in the clear.  But all of us here highly recommend that you take it one step farther and enroll in a credit monitoring service, like the one at CreditReport.com, so that even if someone, aka your ex-wife, tries something then you will know about it immediately.  Hell, you will even be notified when the credit card company simply looks at you credit report to see if “you” qualify.  It should always raise a red flag when some company pulls up your credit report and you don’t even know who they are.  If that happens, report it immediately, before something even worse happens.

It really doesn’t matter if you use CreditReport.com or not.  There are several different monitoring services available.  But make sure that you use somebody who will look out for you while you have to focus on other, more pertinent issues at home.  The cheap expense of a monitoring service is tiny compared to what it could cost if anything like this happens to you. For example, Creditreport.com has a free trial and then only costs $14.95 a month; That equals to 39 years of credit monitoring to add up to the $7000 I have to pay.

So please be careful and remember “Hope for the Best, but Prepare for the Worst!”.  And in case you were wondering… Yes, I used (and still do) CreditReport.com to keep an eye on my credit.

The primary reason why you have to be a head of the game is because you are already starting out from behind.  Unless you have been purposely ignoring everything that has to do with divorce (i.e. TV, news, magazines, the internet) for the majority of your life, you already know that there is still a gender bias in our country’s divorce process.  For the better part of our history, the men in a divorce have been required to keep providing for his ex-wife for well after the divorce.  This was important in the past when the husband was the primary source of income while the wife took care of the house and family.  Just think back to any 50’s or 60’s television show when they often depicted the “perfect family life”… The husband announces that he is home from a long day at the office as the family sits down to a big dinner that the wife has been busy preparing all afternoon.

Times have changed a lot since those days, and yet the divorce process is still lagging behind.  Women are now more likely to have careers, they have just as much education, and earn an income that is comparable to their husbands.  Sure they still have the children (we couldn’t change that even if we wanted to), but that no longer means that she is required to become a stay-at-home Mom.  There are laws that protect their jobs, when they have to take time off to have a child.  Stay-at-home dads are even becoming more common.  Equal rights for women have progressed a lot in this country, as they should, and yet there is still the issue where the wife is considered the victim of a divorce.  And oftentimes, under the guidance of her divorce attorney, she plays the part very well.

So in order to generate a level playing field, you as the man in the divorce is going to have to work a lot harder than anyone else.  That is the way it is, and is not going to change anytime soon, so it’s not worth dwelling on it for any longer than it takes to read this post.  Use the time you have now wisely.

This time should be used for gathering information.  Information on your assets, your debts, and all sources of income.  Now is the time to speculate on what your divorce will bring you.  Are you lucky enough to have a uncontested divorce that you can finish quickly and at minimal cost? Or will it turn into an all-out divorce battle?  If you are going to need a divorce attorney, now is the time to do some research and schedule consultations (But don’t hire anyone yet, unless you absolutely need to).  Also, during this time, keep your emotions at bay!  Don’t go getting yourself into a bind because you can’t control your anger, resentment, and/or jealousy.  Besides the less emotion that you show, the more mysterious you will be to your wife.  It makes it hard for her to guess what you are up to, giving you more freedom to plan your next move.

The most important thing is that you do not fall behind on what you need to get done.  It is very easy to do during this period because there is no one there to direct you, you don’t know how long you have before things really start to heat up, and unless you are able to go days without sleep, and/or going to work, you will not know what exactly your wife is up to.  We will try and give you some guidance on what to do during this time, but because every marriage and divorce is different, it is impossible to cover every detail.  So you will have to make some decisions on your own!

Quick Review of Item #2 of the Divorce Checklist

• Now is not the time to sit and wait for something to happen… Now is the time to prepare for what is to come!
• You, as the man in the divorce, are going to start from behind; that the nature of the divorce process in this country.
• If doesn’t look like you are working harder than everyone else, then your not doing enough.
• You need to start gathering important information (ie financial info) and storing it in a safe place.
• It’s time to determine if you will need a divorce attorney, if so, do your research and schedule consultations.
• Keep your emotions in check! One outburst could certainly lead to problems and gives your wife too much ammo.
• Do Not Move Out of Your House Voluntarily! This in itself has repercussions.  If you want to move out, then make sure the time is right.
• Prepare yourself mentally for what is to come.  Remember, the woman that you are divorcing is obviously not the same woman that you married.
• As always send us an e-mail, if there are specific questions that you cannot find an answer to.

Are you ready for what you should really do?… Never move out of the house voluntarily!

There are several reasons why this is so important.  First off, you are telling everyone including the judge that you have the financial means to afford your own place, and in which case you will also likely have to help pay for the mortgage on the house that you don’t even live in.  Secondly, you are inadvertently telling the judge that you have no issues with letting your wife have custody of the kids.  If this wasn’t the case then why did you have no problem moving out of the house and leaving them behind.  None of this is probably your intentions, but it gives that perception and like always “actions speak louder the words”.

Then what is it that you should do? Especially when your wife keeps pushing you to leave… There a couple of alternatives to voluntarily moving out of your house.

• If your wife is so uncomfortable being around you during this time, then you can give her the option to move out.  She won’t like this option one bit, but if by some very slim chance she decides to leaves… Do not let her take the kids when she moves!!!  The children should not be uprooted from their home, their friends, because you and your wife are having issues.  Let her visit the kids when ever she wants, but she should not be allowed to move them.
• Since the first option is unlikely, you can suggest to your wife that you do a 50-50 share of the home until your divorce is finalized.  You each can live in the house 2 weeks out of the month, get to see your kids 50% of the time, and you can still claim the house as your permanent residence.  The other part of the time, live with a friend or family member so that you don’t have to get a whole other place to live the other 50% of the time (or work out a deal where you and your wife get an apartment together, where each of you can live while not staying at the house.
• And finally, if you have a big enough home, then set up separate living spaces at opposite sides of the house.  And come up with a schedule where you have minimal contact with your wife, until the divorce is figured out.  In the past this may have been an issue because some states required a specific separation period where the husband and wife live apart for a certain length of time.  But with the current economic times, many states have amended this to allow a husband and wife to separate without anyone moving out of the house, under the terms that there is no sexual relationship during this period.

It is very important to stick to your guns on this.  But you also need to be very cautious during this time period, because your wife and her divorce attorney may be cooking up a scheme on how to get you out of the house via a restraining order or no contact order using false accusations of abuse, or claim that you are a threat to her safety.  We will get in more detail on this in the near future, and talk about some ways that you can go about protecting yourself from this.  In the meantime, avoid all unnecessary confrontations with your wife.

You can also speak with your attorney about writing up some paperwork so that you can move out of the house without worrying about the perception issues mentioned earlier.  This often comes in the form of a separation agreement, again something we will go into more detail in a later post (including how you can come up with your own bullet-proof agreement).

Note: If you are concerned about false accusations made by your wife and her divorce attorney or have already been victimized by this unethical, yet common, divorce tactic, then you should seriously check out Restraining Order 911 by Ron Lasorsa.  A very unique guide that will show you how to “cover your ass” in this situation.

In the very near future, you will start seeing posts with a title that is just a simple question.  These posts will cover one question a piece and will contain a single straightforward answer and any links to other pages on our site that will explain the issue any further.  Our goal will be to eventually cover all the questions on the list, as well as, new ones that will undoubtedly come in as we get more and more visitors.  If you have sent us any specific divorce questions or planned to in the near future, do not worry one bit about your privacy!  It is our iron-clad promise that there will be no sign of personal information in these posts.  In fact, the question will likely be re-worded to help it pertain to men’s divorce in general, and will probably look like a completely different question to you.  But the overall point of the question and subsequent answer will be very similar.

There will be 2 very easy ways that you will be able to tell if a post is part of the Divorce Q&A section.

• First, as was already mentioned, the title of the post will be a simple question.

• Secondly, every one of these posts will be marked by the following picture when it is up on the home page of the site:

We fully expect this to be a useful new feature of the site, especially if someone is stuck on a specific issue and doesn’t want have to pay the minimum charge it would take to call and talk to his divorce attorney for one single question.

Which reminds me…We are required to make sure that read the following statement, especially when it comes to answering questions, so that you understand our background:  We are not divorce lawyers so any information that we offer should not be construed as legal advice. But we are all very familiar with with certain aspects on the how the divorce process works so we can present and discuss your options with you.

Now these feelings may not start with you, actually there is a strong possibility that you may be the one on the other side of the fence here.  Statistics say that way more that 50% of the time, the actual divorce process is initiated by the woman in the marriage.  But at the same time these feelings of growing apart could be mutual, the same thoughts that are going through each of your heads.  Rarely do you find that one partner in the marriage is completely oblivious to the fact that their relationship is in trouble.  Now that’s not to say that your wife won’t act completely surprised or stunned when the topic of a separation or divorce is finally brought up, but believe me, she knew that things were not going well.  But regardless of who decides to come forward first, without any intervention there is a strong possibility that you will be a divorced man some time in the future.

The only way the someone or something will be able to intervene in the break down of your marriage is if you (or your wife) recognizes these feelings and wants to make an honest effort improve the marriage.  Otherwise; it will continue to build up until it reaches the point where someone finally stands up and says those for little words… “I Want A Divorce”.  By this point, neither of you can deny the problems with your marriage and the probability of being able to change or reverse the situation reduces significantly.

Now I am not saying that pulling your marriage back from the brink of divorce is impossible at this point.  There are several steps that you and your wife can take to make an honest effort to save your marriage, but these exact same steps would have been much more effective if the effort was made prior to this point.  For instance, turning to friends and family for advice or going to marriage counseling may help reconcile your feelings, your anger, your resentment, your withdrawal from your wife.  But at least one of you has to make a 100% honest effort to make this change; Obviously if both of you puts forth this same effort , the chances of avoiding a divorce increase even more.

So at this point, regardless if you and your wife have began to talk about a separation and/or divorce, you have a very important decision to make.  Are you willing to make an honest effort to save your marriage?  The key here is that you need to be willing to compromise and put in the hard work that will be required to keep your marriage going, which will be even more difficult if there are circumstances that have caused some serious damage to your relationship (ie. infidelity, abuse, etc).  Most people around you will say that they are all for seeing you and your wife work things out and avoid the hell that your divorce would likely turn in to, but if neither of you have the desire than it is not worth the effort of just going through the motions.  A divorce will be difficult enough without the added stress of seeing your efforts to save your marriage go without any improvement.

If you do choose to make a go at avoiding a divorce, we are going to provide you with some basic information on where you can begin.  But if you have taken the time to read about what we went through in our marriages and subsequent divorce, I am sure that you will notice that neither Joe, Mike or myself was able to (or even given the chance to) save our marriages.  But all is not lost because there is a website and guide available that will not only get you started, but basically take you through the process step-by-step.  Simply referred to as “Save My Marriage Today”, it comes highly recommended by us even though we didn’t get a chance to review it until after it was too late.

If you have already come to the decision that you are not going to be able to (or simply do not want to) save your marriage, well then we have a “little” bit more experience with that.  You can skip ahead to the next item on the checklist where we are going to start going over some steps that you need to take immediately, as if a divorce now seems inevitable.

Quick Review of Item #1 of the Divorce Checklist

• A divorce actually begins before any attorneys, courts, papers and/or petitions are involved.
• You must recognize that your marriage is taking a turn for the worse.
• You also need to realize that even though you recognize this as much as you wife does, it is more likely that she will be the one to take action first.
• Now is the time to decide if you want to make the effort that is necessary to try and save your marriage (It is not worth “half-assing” it).
• If you decide to make a go at trying to stop your divorce then you need to take action immediately… Do your Research! (Check out  “Save My Marriage Today”)
• If stopping your divorce is not an option, then move onto the next item on the divorce checklist.
• As always send us an e-mail, if there are specific questions that you cannot find an answer to.

When we first started this site years ago and started providing divorce advice just for men, we actually went with a shotgun approach.  Throwing out tips left and right with no real order to them.  On any given day one of us would write about how to choose the right divorce attorney, and the next day we would throw in something about alimony, child custody, even information on how to save your marriage.  That was how this site first started, and before we knew it there were nearly a hundred posts.  All this great divorce advice with no real structure.  We found ourselves answering emails on questions that we knew that we had already wrote about on the site, but even we had a hard time finding them.  That was when we knew that there had to be some major changes.

We actually put a lot of thought into the re-organization of our little divorce site, and talked to as many regular visitors that we could.  Finally we decided that in the beginning of 2010, we would tear everything down and start from scratch.  We determined that the most appropriate format would be a “divorce time-line” or checklist.  This way our visitors could know where to begin when preparing for their divorce or even jump ahead to the point where their divorce was already at.  We would present the major steps of the divorce process and then expand from there about specific tips and tactics that would fall right along with the checklist.

And so the Divorce Checklist was Born…

This checklist is clearly the backbone for our entire site.  Each major step in the divorce process would get an item number.  From there we would expand out on different divorce tips and still be able to move up to the next step at the same time.  We will continue to add an infinite number of tips for each step, but the numbers of steps will pretty much remain the same.  This is good because no matter what little changes are made to the divorce process over time (just like with other legal issues), the defining steps rarely change.

From here on out, our divorce site should not need any more major renovations, but we can still keep you up-to-date by adding or deleting specific divorce tips. Thus in theory, if you happen to be back on the divorce trail again, 10 years from now, you should be able to come right back to our site and it will be just as helpful then as it will be today.

The initial post for each item on the checklist will provide the most basic information on that step, and after going through each item, we will sum it up with a quick review that will cover the most important points.  So if you’re in a hurry, and want to jump ahead to an item on the divorce checklist that is synonymous to where you are at in your divorce, simply read over the quick review and make sure that you have everything covered before moving a head.  It is important that you don’t miss any of the finer details, because even though you may be further on in your divorce, there are some steps that you can go back and complete with only minor repercussions for being late.

As usual all comments our welcome and if you have some advice on how to strengthen the backbone of this site even more, then by all means share it.  I can’t exactly speak for Joe or Mike, but I thrive on criticism. It pushes me to do even better, and since I will be taking up the reigns as the top admin for MensDivorcehq.com, it will make the site even better.

So enough with the babbling about the new structure of site, it is time to get down to the reason why you are here.  And the obvious place to start, making it divorce checklist Item #1, is determining when your divorce starts and if you can (or even want to) doing anything to stop it!